11 Best Swinger Sites + Apps in 2020

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Swinging is becoming an increasingly popular lifestyle. It’s fun, sexy and there’s no need to get emotionally involved with anyone. You and your partner get to explore yourselves sexually whilst inviting others along for the ride. It can be super liberating and it can take your sex life to another level.

For years, though, it was always really hard to meet fellow swingers! Sure, you could go to bars, strip joints, or even sex shops to build your network, but it took time and effort (and results weren’t always guaranteed). In the digital age, swinger sites make this process way easier.

Keep in mind, these sites are also filled with people just like you and your partner, and they come with exclusive perks and features that enhance your overall experience. But finding other couples and singles can still be tricky and take time and effort. If you meet someone you’re interested in, and who is interested in you, right away, count yourself lucky. But don’t expect it.

Although it’s free to sign up for most of these sites, you’ll probably want to purchase a membership to get access to everything they offer. Not only will it afford you full access to the site, it will show other members that you’re serious in your endeavors.

Since site popularity varies depending on the area you live in, it’s best to start off with the free membership to make sure there are plenty of people using the site or app.

Don’t worry, I’ve done all the research ahead of time and have compiled a list of the best swinger websites for you and your partner!

The Best Swinger Sites

SLS (Swing Life Style)

1 Month$14.95 / month
3 Months$29.94
6 Months$49.98
12 Months$69.96
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This swinger website has been around for awhile as well, and their site shows it. They need a revamp of their design and inner workings. That said, it’s still arguably the best place to meet other swingers in your area and beyond.

My partner and I had a profile here for many years, and had great luck meeting other like minded couples and singles. It’s also great for finding clubs and groups (they even host swinger cruises).

You will want to upgrade your membership to paid as soon as possible so you can view nudes and message others. Only paid members can initiate messaging.

SDC (Swingers Date Club)

1 Month$29.95 / month
3 Months$59.94
6 Months$99.96
12 Months$150
Lifetime$250
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This site is great for open minded couples and single swingers, pretty similar to the previous site. There are plenty of users in most areas.

Plus, you can access premium features for free for a month by entering the promo code “501” at checkout, so it’s worth giving a shot. SDC also shares local swinger clubs, events, and businesses! They also host travel events like cruises.

Kasidie

$30 – $130 annually

This swinger site has plenty of users and is mainly used in Western cities. The popularity definitely depends on your area, so make sure to try it out first to make sure there are a lot of users in your area before subscribing to their premium features.

Adult Friend Finder

$40 monthly or $240 annually

This site has been around for quite some time and is one I am quite familiar with. I’ve had a profile here for many years, off and on, and can tell you it definitely caters to the swinging lifestyle more than most. Although it states it’s for hook-ups, what is swinging other than hooking up with multiple people?

It not only hosts the world’s largest online sex and swinger community, but it’s also gay-friendly and offers subscribers access to thousands of articles and member blogs devoted to sex, dating, and more. So if you’re looking for more than just a fling, but maybe some other kinksters to discuss your practices with, this site is for you. Think of it as Facebook but for alternative dating.

AFF supports direct messaging and email, “flirting” which is like sending a Facebook poke, virtual gifts, blogging, live broadcasts, groups, adult chat rooms, photo contests, and even gives members the option to buy classes through the Sex Academy. There’s even an app for mobile users!

The site is free to join but in order to access the more risque content or have a boosted VIP profile, you’ll need to upgrade to Gold membership.

Ashley Madison

$0.59 per credit (100-credit minimum)

Although most people think of extramarital affairs when they hear about AM, there’s also a section for married couples looking to swing. Be sure to denote you’re married and what you’re looking for when setting up your profile.

FetLife

Although FetLife isn’t technically a swinging website, it can be used as such. FetLife is an alternative lifestyle website, catering to those who are into the more kinky side of sex and life. You can’t register as a couple, but you can state you’re part of a couple in your profile information. Your partner can also create a profile, however, and you can connect yourselves in that way as well.

SwingerDateLink

Free

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Called one of the best swinger dating sites by reviewers, SwingerDateLink may be one of the smallest sites on this list but as they say, good things come in small packages!

Instead of worrying about messaging a bot or someone who could potentially stand you up, according to users, the only people on this site are serious about finding some paired or swapped fun. The site supports free video and audio chatting for members, but by far the best perk is the variety of chat settings.

If you only want to deal with serious inquiries, set your chat to only be available for Premium (or paid) users. And if you’re worried about disclosing your relationship preferences, members can also choose to hide their profile while still searching for a match.

SwingerDateLink is free to join and offers limited messaging and search features for users. However, if you’d like the full experience complete with unlimited access to very specific (AKA expanded) search features and chat settings, you’ll need to upgrade to a paid membership.

Quiver

$100 annually

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Reviewers on Reddit consider Quiver to be one of the best swinger dating sites for a few reasons. Besides the numerous success stories, Quiver has a sleek, easy-to-use interface and supports mobile users, as well as events, chatting, and befriending new members.

Quiver also gives users the options to adjust who can see their profile in search results–verified users, premium users, singles, couples, you get the idea. Quiver also grants users access to a directory of clubs and events, so you never have to worry about not being able to find members IRL.

Joining Quiver is free, but unpaid members only receive limited access to photo galleries, restricted to 30 posts a month, and 20 chat credits per month. Free users are also unable to upload videos. So if those restrictions sound like something you absolutely cannot deal with, you’ll have to upgrade to a paid membership.

ClubForeplay

$84 annually

Popular in the Midwest and Southern cities, ClubForeplay is another great spot to find swinger couples and singles. You can view profiles, browse through events, and more.

Tinder

Although popular for younger singles, it doesn’t hurt to try Tinder to find other swinging couples in your area. If you set your profile to “woman looking for woman” there will be quite a few couples looking for threesomes or other couples to swing with.

The Bottom Line

When you’re looking for other swingers, the key thing to remember is to be patient (even when using the best swinger sites). Finding other like minded couples (and especially a single person) doesn’t happen overnight. Swinging is about fun, for sure, but keep in mind, your relationship is what’s the most important. Talk extensively with your partner about your expectations, rules, and standards ahead of time. Go into things with a simple way out if it gets to be too much and remember, to have a great time!