75 Sex Questions to Ask Your Partner


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Last Updated: April 17, 2021

What is this, 20 questions? Actually, it’s 75 sex questions if we’re being technical.

These can help you get to know a new (or existing) partner, mainly in the sexual sense. Maybe you’re just getting into the swing of a new relationship. Possibly, you’ve been together for quite some time, but haven’t been the type of couple who open up to one another about naughty things. Why not start?

Here’s our fairly comprehensive list of 75 naughty sex questions to ask your partner! You obviously don’t have to ask or answer all of these, just pick and choose your favorites if you’d like (or pick them randomly for extra fun).

1. What’s the dirtiest thought you’ve ever had about a total stranger?

2. Do you prefer sex at night, in the morning, mid-afternoon, or NOW?

3. What’s your favorite way to be seduced?

4. What’s the dirtiest fantasy you’ve had at work?

5. How would you dominate your boss sexually if given the chance?

6. What do you do when you get horny in public?

7. Have you ever masturbated in a public bathroom?

8. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve thought about while touching yourself?

9. What’s the strangest prop you’ve used to get yourself off?

10. Do you remember the first time you felt aroused?

11. Who gave you your first orgasm?

12. Do you remember what that first orgasm felt like?

13. Have you ever had sex with someone whose name you never knew?

14. What’s your favorite thing about a quickie?

15. What is the most sexually daring thing you’ve ever done?

16. Have you ever fantasized about fucking one of your teachers?

17. Do you ever mentally strip strangers just for kicks?

18. And then imagine, in dirty detail, what it would be like to fuck them?

19. Have you ever kissed someone of the same sex?

20. What inspires you to make the first move?

21. In your opinion, what does it mean to be good in bed?

22. Have you ever cheated on a boyfriend or girlfriend because you just couldn’t help yourself?

23. Have you ever pushed the boundaries of fidelity to the brink and then retreated just for the rush?

24. Do you have a go-to masturbation fantasy?

25. What kind of porn turns you on?

26. Have you ever had sex with your eyes closed?

27. Have you ever blindfolded or handcuffed your partner?

28. Does naughty talk arouse you?

29. How often do you masturbate?

30. What’s the dirtiest thing someone’s ever said to you during sex?

31. Have you ever watched another couple get it on without them knowing?

32. Have you ever watched another couple have sex with their permission?

33. If not, does the idea of watching a couple have sex arouse you?

33. How would you respond if a couple approached you to be their “third”?

34. What’s the most flattering thing someone’s said about your naked body?

35. When’s the last time you had a vivid sex dream?

36. What do you think an orgy would be like?

37. Have you ever propositioned a total stranger?

38. What does your ideal one-night stand look like?

39. How long does it take you to get yourself off, on average?

40. What’s the weirdest thing that turns you on?

41. Have you ever had a naughty dream about a close friend or family member?

42. Have you ever woken up humping your pillow?

43. When’s the last time you orgasmed in your sleep?

44. What’s the most embarrassing thing that’s happened to you while hooking up?

45. Do you like touching yourself in front of the people you sleep with?

46. What’s the dirtiest text you’ve ever sent or received?

47. Do you prefer professional or amateur porn?

48. What’s your favorite blowjob technique?

49. If you had to pick, would you be dominant or submissive?

50. Is there anything you won’t do in bed?

51. Would you let your boss dominate you sexually if given the chance?

52. Have you ever participated in group sex (3 or more)?

53. What do you enjoy most about sex, penetration, oral, foreplay?

54. How do you feel about giving and receiving oral?

55. Do you enjoy having sex outdoors?

56. Do you have a fetish?

57. What is a sexual thing you would love to do, but haven’t had the courage to try?

58. Do you enjoy one-night stands?

59. Do you enjoy anal sex? Giving or receiving.

60. Are you quiet or loud during sex?

61. How do you feel about using sex toys?

62. Have you ever videoed yourself masturbating and sent it to someone else?

63. Taking that a step further, have you ever been paid for a video of yourself?

64. If not, would you ever accept payment for a video of yourself either having sex or masturbating?

65. What turns you on the most about a sex partner? Eyes, voice, body part, etc

66. What was the absolute best sex of your life like?

67. What turns you off the most in your chosen partner? Is it appearance, or something they do (or don’t do) in bed?

68. What do you like the most about your own body?

69. Is there a song or genre of music that turns you on?

70. Ladies, do you think size matters? Gentlemen, does breast size/booty size matter?

71. What’s the longest period of time you’ve gone without sex?

72. If you had to choose only one position for the rest of your sex life, which would it be?

73. If you could have any celebrity/famous person join you and your partner in bed for the night, who would it be?

74. If you could go back in time, what, if anything, would you change about your first sexual encounter?

75. Have you ever accidentally sent a nude to the wrong person? If so, how did you handle it?

Aren’t these fun?!

I think so, but please note, not everyone will be comfortable answering all of these questions. And that’s okay! Answer the ones you want and skip the rest. The point is to enjoy yourselves, have fun, and get to know one another better, not to cause strife or discomfort!

In the end, you’re learning about yourself and your partner and that breeds communication. That’s never a bad thing. These sex questions will definitely turn both of you on, so you might need to take a few rounds.